Getting back together after a break up

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Is getting back together again after a breakup such a good idea? The answer to that is really depends on the situation (the events that led to the breakup) and the type of person you are right now (how you deal with things).

Some questions you should be asking yourself if you’re considering this are:

  1. If your ex cheated on you and you got back together after you broke up, could you deal with that?
  2. Would you respect your partner less? And if so, for how long?
  3. How would your behaviour change, if at all?

Point number 1 refers to how you deal with things in your mind. If you and your partner are back together again after a mishap, are you going to be sitting together on a Friday night watching a movie, all smiles on the outside and resentment on the inside? If this is something you’re likely to do then getting back together may not be such a great idea – it’s going to cause you stress indefinitely.

Point number 2 overlaps the other two points and is about your attitude toward your partner once you’re back together again. It takes a strong person and the right circumstances to forgive somebody and you really need to consider whether this is something you can do right now. You’re going to be wasting a lot of time and emotional energy if you try to get your relationship back on track but you can’t put the past behind you.

Point number 3 is about your external behaviour: how will the things that are going on inside your mind manifest on the outside? Are you going to so suffer mood swings? Are you going to make remarks every time questionable subject or incident appears?

If you answered yes to any of the 3 points then this could be your indication that you’re having an issue with letting go of the past, whether for the better or the words. If this is you, then you already know the answer to the question.

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